We have Harper to thank for linking the phrase "ignorance is bliss" to jealous women on the last post.
So the question I gotta ask is this.
Is ignorance bliss? I have already said it is not in my comments in the last post.
Harper disagreed, and you are also free to do so. You can read it here.
But it still got me thinking.
Do we women go looking for trouble where there is none?
Sure! sometimes we do.
But that female sixth Fbi sense is nothing to be sneezed at oh. A woman usually knows when her man has being up to something. Even if she can't prove it. I think that it's in the course of proving that he cheated that she then starts prying, trying to convince herself that she isn't crazy.
Sometimes, she finds more than she bargains for.
And in a good case scenario the man apologizes.
In a bad one,he says "Thank God you now know sef! Oya do whatever you like"
In the latter case, especially if they are married, people will blame her for playing FBI.
No woman must call him, he must be accountable for all hours of the day, and God help him if he doesn't pick up his phone when she calls.
He is in hot soup.
The poor man isn't cheating but the woman doesn't believe that.
There is also the i-dont-have-any-evidence yet but I must catch him in the act group.lol. These are the ones who check their partner's phones,email, shirt collars, boxers, call logs for any suspicious activity. In this case the guy may or may not be cheating. And if he is cheating he takes extra care not to be found it cos it's just a fling and he loves his woman.
The woman usually finds out by her own diligent research.
My mum used to do this a lot and it would cause huge fights with my dad.
Anytime she wanted to solicit my help to help her look into my dad's facebook so she could look at all his female "friends" I used to ignore her oh before kasala will burst and my dad will ask who escorted her on her "Gulder Ultimate search". I dunno what she was going to look for.
I didn't encourage her one bit cos the drama was always too epic.
Besides,will facebook write GIRLFRIEND on the pictures?
Me I used to just tell her "you people don old for this kain drama abeg. I no get una time".
I don't think I will get to that age and be bothered about what my husband in the U.K is up to especially if I am the one that refused to go join him.
Anyway my dad is back home now so her snooping zeal don reduce.lol
Then there's the i-know-he-is-cheating-and-i-need-facts-evidence- to-backup-what I know group.
As petitediva said, it all boils down to a lack of trust. If you trusted someone then you wouldn't have to pry. And if you pry and find something then that means your lack of trust was well founded in the first place.
Its true that knowing won't make him/her stop.But at least I know about it.
Is ignorance truly bliss? Did you get to know or find out something that you wished you hadn't?