Thursday, 11 September 2014

Money no be love oh!


Yes oh!
I hate it when guys think all a woman is after is money?
Why will I chose money above honesty and effort?When I no craze.
When I was in Uni sef I didn't date for money. I dated my ex for years cos he is awesome.
He basically remains my padi of life till today (although the guy did have the "baddest" ride on campus then sha).
But I fell in love with him for reasons apart from his big boy status.
Eventually he had a bad car accident and the car was a write off, graduated and didn't get a job on time and we still dated till I graduated 5 years later.

In fact ehn, that he is in money now after all my "suffering" still dey do me one kain.
Imagine! We were talking yesterday and he mentioned that he just bought another car for Six million and just spent another  2m on a trip abroad for summer.
Smh.

Enough history jare before I remember that his evil mother and her manipulations this early morning.
The story no be for today.

So basically there are so many other factors involved in dating a guy apart from money.

Till date the guys in my office believe all women love the good things of life to the exclusion of every other thing. Till date they all do is yimu when the ladies in my office protest vehemently and tell them that money isn't everything.
They are like "Na lie jare. If a guy in a G Wagon or a Rolls Royce parks beside you and tells you to enter, or Peter/ Paul Psquare, or Femi Otedola asks you to date him, you wont ever say no".
The ladies are always horrified and we protest vehemently oh, but they refuse to believe till tomorrow.
I cant blame them much, Cos i dont know the type of money loving women they too have been meeting.
But some women look at something else besides money,gift and cars.
Yes oh! Money is good. Attractive even. But it's not the end and be all of why some women date.
Money can be a turn off at times sef.

What do you think?

Do you agree?
Post a comment below! Let me know what YOU think.

P.S This post had to be fished out of drafts when my phone deleted some parts of the post I originally planned oh so if there are any typos or corrections or new pics,make una no complain.
Somebody should give us a title abeg. Its past midnight and I wan sleep.

Yay! Tibsy has finished her exams. She is coming with R-E-I-N-F-O-R-C-E-M-E-N-T-S.
Hear that G &H club.

41 comments:

  1. Money no be love. But with small money, love dey last! - Harper

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    1. Thats a pragmatic way of looking at it.

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  2. Funmi !, I recently had a conversation with a colleague of mine I have known for years now, when I visited Warri. Hmmm things dey happen sha, I ask the bobo. How far with you babe na. The guy kon tell me say E babe say make the guy go make better money b4 he go come date m o. I was like WTF. And not quietly long the guy got a good well paid Job in Total. And this is a girl that came from a wealthy family no be say na Ajekpako oo. 6 months back some girls told me, they rather date or marry a rich dude with a firstly class in cheating than sticking their ass with a poor guy with a bed sitter or face me I face you o, hehehehe. These are educated girls with a good career. The whole truth here's money answereth all things. I no der can be love without money, but can love last without money? Lol

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    1. Kai! The girl go just put hand on top her head. She really miscalculated. The guy had a narrow escape cos she obviously didn't love him.
      Those girls bad gan. Date a cheating guy cos he's rich?wtf?
      Who thinks like that?
      Money doesn't answer all things oh.
      Love can last without money Godwin.it may not be easy but it really can.

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  3. Huh?!?!?!....Godwin?!?!....and Harper did you say with money love will last!?....Yeah...I am back with vengeance....**brings out my bazooka**.....**and pointing at Harper** Erhmm papi....Money assures Comfort and sincerely Yes! I have not seen a sad man in a private Jet.......buh Money NEVER guarantees love.....NEVER!....buh it guarantees COMPANIONSHIP.....with money you can 'buy' a companion...buh NOT love.....and mami.....you just generalized guys up there...**bringing out my shotgun** Not all guys think that girls are after their money....you see...no matter how you perceive a guy...you gotta remember that men bleed.....they are not all A#$holes...there are quite a number of amazing guys out there.....and a girl who is intrigued by what a guy possesses is a very immature lady/girl....know why?.....cuz everything in life has an expiry date....soooooo

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    1. Mama you no I'm scared when it comes to bazooka hehehehe, Harper I'm buying an helmet today oo, I will start wearing PPE when I'm coming in here ( prevention is better than cure o) #TeamG&H .

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    2. Oh papi...**drops bazooka and picks up machete** Team G and H?!?!.....infact...Obiamaka!!! Amaka!! get in here....and where is Esther and my shotgun!!.....we have a team to disband....I can't even begin to imagine what could happen when Duru gets here......buh papi...I pray for you that you would find that one girl who would love you no matter the size of your pocket...

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    3. What Tibs said!
      All of it.
      yeah, i stole some stuff from you both for my post today

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    4. Oh Vira mami....Steal way...that reminds...I gotta go steal something too.....hehe....

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    5. @ Tibsy!Lets not use the shotgun just yet. Let's manage the bazooka for those two for now ok.
      @ Godwin!You need an a bullet proof vest. That helmet won't help you at all.
      @ Vira.Great post. Big hug.

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    6. Lool am here. Godwin soon cupid will strike you ehn

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  4. I hate it when guys think all ladies are after money but then I like to ask them why they keep attracting the wrong set of ladies and start to generalize.
    Money doesn't and can never be a substitute for love! There are many rich folks out there dying from loneliness jare.

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    1. And she is here...**whispering** we need a plan mami.....so there are some papis who decided to have an association....we needs ours......Mamacita Association of disbanding G&H...hehe

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    2. *Big hug to Amaka*
      Thats the latest ajuwaya in town.hope you are doing great babe.
      And yes! It all boils down to the type of girls that you attract. You like the loud,Bleaching,Brazilian wearing,designer touting,expensive looking babe and you say she likes money.
      Where will she get money to buy bleaching creams and designer wears now. Who will take her to Paris or buy her Iphone 6 if no be rich Guy.

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    3. Tibs hehehe thanks to you I got the link. I see Godwin is trying to form some club but yeah we going to disband them!

      Funmi am trying to oh. Don't mind those niggas jare

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  5. Honestly, i don't blame men that think like that. Its because of what they've seen from a lot of ladies and as they say, everyone is a product of his/her life's experience. That being said, it never makes sense to generalise opinions cuz they're personal. There are still many ladies who are not attracted to wealth. Like you said, money can even be a turn off sometimes cuz when someone is so arrogant and pompous, u just may think: maybe if his head wasn't swelling cuz of d money, he may just be a better person. Money cannot buy love, but it can buy u a lover. - Ada

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    1. Pompous men can be so annoying ehn! And very dismissive.
      One can't blame the men because a lot of our women folk are responsible for this notion. But we don't all love money. That's the notion I hate. I know a couple of women who stood by their men in extreme poverty. I am talking soaking garri and one room tins .

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  6. I just complained about this mentality to someone before I saw this post... but TBH, there are more girls who are interested in the monetary aspects of a relationship than those of us who are concerned about the relationship itself... But IMO, I think the ones who are being milked are not even complaining o
    Every mallam with him kettle sha

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    1. There are indeed more girls who like money pass than those of us who don't. And some men love to also spend their money on them.
      They won't complain while spending it oh,but they will say all women love money.

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  7. I have hardly see a woman that doesn't go for money. If it was the time of our parents, I would have agree that money isnt what they want. This days love is expensive. Women thinks a man who showers them with gifts and money is the ideal lover. The poor dude loves them more but money has limited his love for her. No matter how he expresses his love to her, she is blinded by the rich dude spendings. Women love money.

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    1. Funmi, I am gonna apologise to you for what I am gonna do now....I NEED you to know I respect you alot....buh this comment this guy King just dropped is very disrespectful to me so yeah I am gonna address it.......Erhm Mister....how could you generalize all women in this manner??...I mean....I wanna believe you have got sisters...is this supposed to be the notion you have bout them??....and clearly, reading this statement of yours tells me that you have got some problems with girls and boy oh boy!..I wonder why you wouldn't...you have got terrible manners.......I am all for respecting opinions buh this is not an opinion...this is you being UTTERLY DISRESPECTFUL!....WTF do you mean by 'Women love money'....??...like you gotta open those squinty eyes of yours and look the fuck around....A WOMAN OWNS THIS DAMN BLOG!!!!!....if you have a terrible experience with a woman cuz you got a tiny pocket....erhm Mister...some people with tiny pockets have got a GREAT attitude....and clearly you have NONE of those two......and you come here and write that bloody shitty bullcrap?!?!?!......Grrr.....You gotta watch it Mister.....else you are gonna be poor and be alone.....oh and btw...Girls don't like impersonators....your name is supposed to be King....and you are way NOT that......Check it!.

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    2. @Kigho. You were wrong to generalize. See ehn! Some Women have loved money even before our parents times. Girls don dey do aristo since the oil boom when old men used to take them for shopping abroad.
      Its not like it's pecuilar to women of this generation.
      Maybe you hardly see women that don't love money cos you are meeting the wrong women.
      Love isn't expensive at all. Its the simple things that counts for some of us.
      And not all women think that an ideal lover is the one that showers them with money and gifts. Cos I have my money oh.As I said, when I was in the uni,i didn't even date for money.
      I think you have had a nasty experience with some money loving women. Some women don't love money ok.

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    3. @Tibsy.no vex mamacita.
      I would hate to get on your bad side.hehehehe.
      I guess he's had pretty bad experiences with some women.

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    4. Oh mami.....**sigh of relief** I am glad you are not upset......**gives you my shotgun** mami...you can have my shotgun....**pointing at Harper**....you can use it on Harper anytime...**whispering** Papi you know I got love for you...hehe..

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  8. It's such a silly generalization for anyone to think that all women are out for money. However, there are too many women out there who ARE out for money. I want to say it's shameful, but the truth is that I don't know their story or where they're coming from.

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    1. Thats also another angle oh Berry.
      "Their story" on liking money. Granted Some are just greedy but who knows why some think that way.
      Thanks for coming by. *big Hug*
      I hope you guys visited her blog like I said last week. One day I will set exams oh.

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  9. Funmi.. Funmi... Funmi... ya Blog just keeps getting Warmer and Warmer. hehehehehehh @ Ernie and Kigho... You guys ehn! lmao! #No Comment, when i saw the WW3 above, i had to dodge for cover, so a stray Bullet doesn't hit me, I was about to support Team Ernie yeah, but when I read the comment, i was like naaaahhh My Baby has it covered :)... hehehehe Kigho like Trouble shaaa.

    I for one believe that Money is a very ghen ghen thing needed in every relationship, but its not a Mandate for the guy to spend. and to say that allllllll girls are after money is to say something verrrrryyy distant from the truth. I have met very amazing ladies, you know those that are all about true companionship et al, and i have also met the JdB give me 20k type. I met this Babe recently, and we hadnt even sat down to have a reasonable meaningful lunch, and bam! she asked for 20k. Can you imagine 20K not even 5k, that geh wanted to ruin my Billionaire plans oh! how on Earth was I gonna save for Ernie and jilda's jet had i toasted her to the end? mehhhnnn I ran for my life.

    It is sad that many people believe that all girls are after cash, but its not true. But you people know money is important to susutain Love now? I totally Agree with Oga Boss Harper, money sure isn't love. Oya let me hype my Babe a bit. We went for Lunch sometime last week, and First off ehhnnn I formed Mugu of the century cause i traveled from V.I to Illupeju (Ernie thats like 2 Hours To and Fro via public transport) to see her for Lunch. **heheheh I get luck say them no sack me that day** at the eatery, after she ordered Chin chin and Tin Tomato (chips and sauce See as she wasted my money.. Me Chips and Sauce? me that likes Rice :) ) She brought out her ATM and paid. My was i impressed and various levels of respect popped out for Jilda that day... I gave her the money with jara back on top sef. So the morale of this story was to hype my babe, and to proove to all my Brothers out there, that Truly not all girls care about the money. Do you know that there are guys also who fail to date ladies from not so ghen ghen Backgrounds??? so you see fam, its an all rounder Gender thing. It is well. May GOD make us Bigger. Cheers.
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    1. **clears throat** So Duru you had to tell the whole world that we are in an open relationship eh?.....I need to have me another...erhmmm Harper papi....are you applying or not???......cuz I need a new liebster.....Qualification: Must be able to buy Ernie a private Jet........don't worry bout anything else...hehe......You know what papi...I love this illustration you gave......see I am not okay when ladies generalize guys and when guys generalize women....... cuz I believe there are some amazing guys and ladies out there.......and I am glad you got you one....

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    2. Duru! Lol @ dodging. Even me I had to chill, then step out when the coast seemed clear.
      Which kain babe they like to fall somebody's hand.20k? Isn't that just batter for sex. What did she do that she wanted money for.
      Na wah oh.
      Jilda for Governor. I love her already pls keep hyping her.
      Men also love cos of money oh.not just women. I agree. And they aren't usually honest about it to the women like the women are. A money loving woman usually won't hide it.and even if she does, not for a long time.

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    3. abi oo. my birthday was yesterday and i spent MY money for MY party. my friend kept asking me to introduce the man behind the party (what man? as there is none for now, wont i have fun with my friends and celebrate being a year older). i was a little miffed sha cuz what kind of mentality is that? - Ada

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    4. That your friend sef. So na only man fit pay for better party? I am sure if she had the money she would still be waiting for the man to throw the party for her.

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  10. Ladies, Ladies, Ladies!!! Calm down, ladies. Tibsy baby, I see u've got some serious Al Capone in u! Lol! I don't think anyone can say something holds true for all of a particular gender or colour or nationality. There r good and bad people everywhere. Having said that, people will form their opinions based on their experiences so it can be difficult to be too hard on them for it. I met a girl who grew up somewhere in rural Nova Scotia, who said she was 21yrs old the first time she saw a black person. All she knew about us was from tv! So if she formed opinions based on black gangsters being arrested on the news all the time, she would be wrong but it would be understandable. I've met some amazing women in my adventures. Some love money and some don't. But everyone wants the comforts money can buy. Man or woman - everyone! I love my cars and they cost money so I guess I love money! Can't blame a woman who doesn't want to hang around with a broke-ass n**ga! But I ain't saying she a gold digger :) I love and respect women and I'll bet Godwin does too. - Harper

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    1. Harper papi....I gotta tell you this eh...see up there...you do have a valid point....some people form perceptions based on the knowledge they are/were privileged to know......buh see.....at a time I wasn't this comfy in/with life.....buh that in NO way helped me in setting a preference....why??.....cus Rich Man A is different from Rich Man B.....and that's just it......buh when someone says this ----- Men are dogs.....or Women are bitches .........that is no longer one speaking on a general basis....that is personal and HIGHLY IGNORANT and might I add...DISRESPECTFUL.....right or not?

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    2. See Harper coming to mediate when the dust has settled? *Puts hands on hips. Where were you during Ernie V. Kigbo. Where were you when missles and bombs and bullets were flying and we needed U.S peacekeeping force. Yeah you love and respect women. Emphasis on love.hahaha. Well said sha.You tried small.

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    3. Lol @ US Peacekeeping Force. Tibsy went all bazooka on us! Lmao! I have to ask though. Is there anyone who wants to be with a lazy, ambitionless person, man or woman? Does that qualify as loving money?I have no issues with a woman seeing the potential in a guy and being with him cos she likes him and sees a future. In fact, I HATE lazy people who sit on their butts all day and dream of nothing. So sometimes the line is not so clear. - Harper

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    4. No Harper! I certainly don't like ambitionless people. Even if the ambition is to go to the moon at least aim higher,aim for something.
      It certainly doesn't qualify as loving money. If he shows prospects Fine! Prospects is even more desirable than having money cos if he has just money it's may finish,but if he is clever and hard working now, aiming for something better then the future is bright.

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  11. This is what i will tell you all, love is never blind !!!! ladies always have a reason for loving be it coz of money or anything for that matter

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    1. Sigh! Oga Vic! Just when we narrowly avoided World War 4.
      Of course there's always a reason for loving. But it's not always about money. Off the top of my head are Happiness,laughter,compatibility,
      joy etc.

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  12. Hahahaha! I was just laughing while reading all the comments especially Tibs' reactions. Don't I just love Tibs! Funmi, u have a nice blog. My first time here and I'm loving it already. Nike.

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    1. Thanks Nike for the compliments and for coming by and also on Tibs's behalf. She is a drama queen that Tibs.

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  13. Oohhhh this is a topic that never gets old & I see it's been properly tackled. Personally, I don't think money when I meet a guy, like, it's not even on my list. I however have ambition. This way, I know he has feasible goals & won't just sit on his ass.

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