When I was younger, I dreamt so much of getting married. I had the day all planned in my head and what I would wear.
My criteria for a groom was a recipe for disaster.
Handsome, tall (the womb thing came later), rich, a big boy (Goodness knows what I thought that meant), loved me absolutely to the exception of everybody else, didn't have a big family, a good lover, a professional (only a doctor, a pilot or lawyer would do) though I could have managed a banker,lol.
I didn't gave a thought as to what his beliefs and ideals were.
And yes I know some women even older than me still have these as their criteria. But not me. At least not any longer.
I never actually gave a thought to what came after. Not the sex,lol I knew about that,but the intricacies of marriage, compromise (that art of keeping the marriage so it doesn't collapse ) is a lot of work .
And I know I would have failed woefully at if I had gotten married at that age.
My younger self was so impatient and entitled, it was my way or nothing at all. The marriage wouldn't have stood a chance.
I am thankful I got to grow up, I got to understand life cos looking back I didn't know Shit then.
I got to work on my temper, work on my attitude (I used to sulk a lot if I didn't get my way), learn how to mix with people cos I prefer being alone.
When my immediate supervisor who is also a lawyer tries some Shit with me now and I don't react, I just laugh at the realization of how far I have come. Some years back, there would have been hell to pay. I didn't like being told what to do or when to do it.
I also used to be very jealous. I still am, but I have learnt how to deal with it.
I think the inlaws would have been my first problem, then hubby would probably have gotten tired of my faults cos am Very sure I would have married the wrong person then.
In retrospect all my exes except number three would have made for a failed marriage.
Cos what I knew then,i didn't know now.
I am not miraculously changed,but I am older and very much wiser.
Thank You very much.
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Would I have made a good wife then?