Some days after the chat, she sent me a message that her husband seized her phones and I had been chatting with her husband who apparently went berserk after he saw my messages and concluded that she had been telling tales to her friend.He reported her to his family and she had to face a series of lectures on not talking to anybody about your marriage and how friends (in this case me) could be dangerous (and steal your husband) lol.
I took my cue from that incident and didn't call her again though I hoped she was ok.
Imagine my surprise when my phone rang a couple of days days later and it was the husband.
The long and short of it was that he was very angry that his wife opened up to me about their struggles but since I knew it already, maybe I could be of some help in spying for him.
|spying things lol. Pic source|
Apparently my full time job as a lawyer wasn't enough I was to become a spy also.
My duties entailed me reporting back to him whatever his wife told me about his shortcomings so he could "improve" (beat her the more). I said ok. Afterall why am I a lawyer.
I dropped the phone and thought about my life! Kai! I have suffered.If not somebody will not come and be telling me to come and spy for him.
I admit it was tempting to play fairy godmother/meddling friend and think I could actually help the marriage.
There were like four options.
1) Do as he said and tell him what his wife said his faults were.
2) Tell the wife that her hubby wanted me to spy on him.
3)Play Double agent (lol) and report to the husband after I have told the wife my assignment. Then we could beat him at his own game.
But! One thing my mum always warned about was getting in the middle of husband and wife. In her words "they settle the fight and put you in the middle"
But what to do?
My mind was still spinning. Option one was definitely out of the way. I loved her too much to risk her finding out. She would never forgive me.
Finally I came to Option ( 4)
Do Nothing (while praying hard she wouldn't call me at all before the husband did for "follow up"
A week after,he called me. I told him truthfully that I hadn't heard from his wife. He asked me to call her and lobby for information. I told him that will look suspicious and he should just wait for her to call me.
Thankfully she didnt.And he left me alone. I am a bad spy lol.
Viv and I don't speak of the incident again.
She is still with him. No job yet for her. He probably still beats her and worst of all he's scared her from opening up to others who could help her.
The "I love my husband" posts have decreased on Viv's facebook.
The incident thought me a great lesson. Some people are trapped into traps of their making via marriage. Its also unwise to look at marriage as a bed of roses with a happily ever after ending.
And that folks is the conclusion. For the (im)patients waiters lol.i hope you are happy.
So what's your take? What else should I have done? What would you have done?