Thursday 4 September 2014

True or Not?


I dunno! At first glance I nodded and said Sure! Very True.
A man that stands by his wife all through a stroke, accident,disability,poverty or infertility must love her a lot. Abi?
But after more thought (and some juice) I kind of feel the statement has some fallacies.
In an instance where the man and woman have the  AS genotype, and the man let's go. Does that mean he doesn't love her? 

I am even more confused cos I have a cousin who is SS and her husband is AA. I have often been awestruck at that kind of love cos his family gave him a lot of pressure. Many years later, she's still alive contrary to their fears and their kids aren't SS.

Does it mean that those that now break up weren't in love?
It also hits close to home cos I know what it took for my ex and I to break up after dating for a looong time. It was hard but it had to be done,this wasn't AS stuff but some other drama that none of just wanted to deal with in the future.

It's years since we split but he loves me still,and he's still the only person I know that can do anything for me even till now .Years after breaking up. 
He now regrets not being more stronger and having more faith then cos he's not happy now, and it's too late mehn.

And as per the second one. Really! So if I am angry that he's cheating,leaving means I don't truly love him? 
I don't get oh.

Someone help me out here.

19 comments:

  1. Ms. Reese! AA and SS will not produce an SS child. Just not possible. So u will leave ur husband if u catch him cheating? Even if u have children? - Harper

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    1. I know. But that was the major fear from a lot of people irrespective of the chances.
      Mr Harper! I didn't say husband oh. Marriage to me as a is a commitment which I will take seriously. And I will work on it.
      I won't leave my husband cos I am angry at something he did.Nope!
      I am just saying leaving a man who made u angry doesn't mean you don't love him.

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  2. Funmi why does the whole issue boils down on men when it comes to relationship. All your post dey go one side o always against the men. Harper my guy

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    1. My brother, no be so oh. It just looks that way.
      Anyway that's why we have you and Harper now,to always champion the case of the men.hehehe

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    2. Godwin, no mind Funmi o! E be like say na only man dey cause all the problems for relationship matter. How body? - Harper

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    3. Harper! you or Godwin could write a post from the male perspective.
      Wouldn't that be something?
      Deal?
      Email me and let's talk about it.

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    4. Ms. Reese! Sounds like a plan. - Harper

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  3. @ Harper, I am married with 3 kids with no job or a large chunk of money in my bank account but will definitely walk out on my husband if I discover any case of him actually sleeping with another cause I have a sister living with aids abi na hiv thanks to her Romeo' s wandering dick. I tell him when we are talking about issues of the heart and he has labelled me as having unconditional love, not loving as Christ instructed and having a terminal mindset as far marriage is concerned but I still maintain my ground that I don't have to be a Mrs to make heaven.

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    1. Too bad. Imagine getting Aids from an unfaithful spouse.
      Lol @ not loving as Christ instructed. How many men can tolerate a cheating wife? Very few. It works both ways.

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    2. Anon 12.09, that's really tough, about ur sister! But I do agree with ur husband about ur being terminally minded about ur marriage even though I see why u would be on edge. - Harper

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  4. I even work on my plan b from time to time sef. Changing location, changing Schools, cutting out all ties from my people and in laws for like a decade, keeping in touch with only him if his new found love gives us the opportunity, working harder and most of all embracing my one and only pure love God

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    1. I agree. God is the only pure love.

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    2. Anon 12.17, the only problem with this Plan B that u visualize is that u may be increasing the probability of it coming to reality by dwelling on it. - Harper

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  5. Anon you keep tolking down on your man and expect heaven kind of romantic love to happen between both of you. I wonder how some of you ladies sleep when voicing out things like this. You need help

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    1. @Godwin I guess she's just voicing out her fears and having a back up plan just in case her fears become reality.

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  6. I love you but unlike Bruno Mars I'm not catching a grenade for you. How about loving me enough to prevent the grenade situation in the first place? Afterall to be fore warn is to be fore armed

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    1. Life is a battlefront. Grenades must come. - Harper

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  7. I really don't think there are any set rules when it comes to love and relationships... I totally believe in creating and setting your own rules and define them to suit you and your partner as long as you both are comfortable with it. So while I could possibly leave a cheating spouse, doesn't mean you should if you are not comfortable doing it... That's what I think tho

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  8. Of Course Esther .I quite agree with you.
    No set rules whatsoever for relationships. For instance that you dated a bad boy who messed up doesn't mean that the bad boy I date won't marry me.
    We are all too different and circumstances so different that the end results must differ.
    Thanks for coming by. You make so much sense.

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