Tuesday, 16 September 2014

True Talk

“But what I can do is paint you a picture of what you’ll never see when you’re with a guy who’s really into you: You’ll never see you staring maniacally at your phone, willing it to ring. 

“Because here’s what guys don’t do if they can’t live without you: They don’t break up with you.” 
Yes Oh. They so don't.

You’ll never see you ruining an evening with friends because you’re calling for your messages every fifteen seconds. You’ll never see you hating yourself for calling him when you know you shouldn’t have. What you will see is you being treated so well that no phone antics will be necessary. You’ll be too busy being adored.” 

  “If a guy truly likes you, but for personal reasons he needs to take things slow, he will let you know that immediately. He won’t keep you guessing, because he’ll want to make sure you don’t get frustrated and go away.” 
Hmmmmmm. Maybe. 
 “I’m about to make a wild, extreme, and severe relationship rule: THE WORD "BUSY" IS A LOAD OF CRAP AND IS MOST OFTEN USED BY ASSHOLES. The word “busy” is the relationship Weapon of Mass Destruction. Remember: Men are never too busy to get what they want.” 
I so agree. When they want sex they aren't busy. Amaka, gimme five jare.
 “We (men) would rather lose an arm out a city bus window than tell you simply, “You’re not the one.” We are quite sure you will kill us or yourself or both—or even worse, cry and yell at us.” 
Harper,Godwin and co. Over to you oh.

“..he may love you, he may miss you, but ultimately he's just not that into you.” 
Hmmmmmmmmm. This oyibo people. How is that  possible?

“There will never be a good time, financially, to get married, unless you're Shaq or Ray Romano. But somehow people manage. If your man is using money as an excuse not to marry you, it's your relationship that's insecure, not his bank account.”
Yes Oh. 
 “Don’t spend your time on and give your heart to any guy who makes you wonder about anything related to his feelings for you” 
Any guy or relationship  that turns a woman to "wonderer" is a bad idea. 
 “A man who wants to make a relationship work will move mountains to keep the
woman he loves” 
Of Course. No relationship is easy. But if he wants to make it work,he will.

“Here's something else to think about: calling when you say you're going to is the very first brick in the house you are building of love and trust. If he can't lay this one stupid brick down, you ain't never gonna have a house baby, and it's cold outside.” 
Enough said jare.Word1

The End
So you guys should check out Esther's blog on www.thewayestherseeit.com.
She isn't just a pretty face oh. She is very articulate and writes rationally about a lot of issues and is also funny.
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Thanks for all your comments and opinions on yesterday's post. Whether man or woman, its nice to exchange opinions,experiences, and viewpoints on all the signs.

I divide my posts sometimes if they are too long to be one post and the divided parts are sufficient enough to be posts on their own.

Source ― Greg Behrendt,
He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys


  1. "You'll never see u ruining an evening.... " I disagree here. What is love without a little suspense? How can I keep calling all the time like Funmi's Abuja fine boy? Then she'll get tired of all the adoration and excess attention. Just enough attention to keep her willing her phone to ring...hehehe

    Why would I tell a girl I want to take things slow? Well, maybe after a few rounds of firing sha. and she is getting too attached. But never before firing. :)

    I agree with never telling a girl she's not the one. Everyone deserves some dignity.

    "He may love u, he may miss u...". Oyinbo get problem

    Like I once said, u have to show a woman enough attention so she knows u care while holding back enough to make her wonder. Walking the fine line.

    My advise to women: Be urself and enjoy life! Being too concerned about whether or not a guy takes u seriously will only make u tense and uncomfortable. And it shows! Relax and be urself. Ur calmness will make ur company relaxing and therefore enjoyable. Only about 20% of my time is actually mine. So if I spend 10% of my time with u, it may seem small but is actually 50% of my time! That is a LOT of time, to me. - Harper

    1. I disagree with your disagreements jare.
      A guy calling you often is only irritating If he's so much into you than you are into him.
      Where it's reciprocal,then you won't have to wonder anything jo.
      If I have to wonder, then it's not going well niyen.
      As per that your 10% calculation. Smh. 10% of 100 isn't a good idea in any way.

    2. I would have been surprised if u had agreed. As for that 10% calculation, it is logic. Think about it. - Harper

  2. Phew am on the road so I can't read this properly. Being busy is relative. Intact who is not busy self? But even the bible says where your treasure is there your mind will be.

    1. Abi oh! Who is not busy jare?
      Everyone has something to do na but you set priorities.

  3. Funmiiiiii!! You have said it alllll.... I hope every woman reads this
    Thanks for the feature too

  4. you have nack the nail on the head........true talk....please check out my BLOG

  5. There is no straight rule to rshps/marriage. Diff tngs works for diff pple. It all depends on how u n ur partner build urs.

    I disagree with the area of finance. That a man is not yet financially ready for marriage has nothing to do with *insecuities*. He rather marries u with an empty pocket? Nah... love is not enough!

    And when a man reduces the way he calls u, it doesn't mean he dsnt love u again or not that into u. Men are rational beings as opposed to women who are emotional beings. Once he has conqured u, he feels there's nothng to strive for again! He relaxes out n starts thinking straight like 'we'll see this evening, let her do wt she has for d day'!

    It is ur duty as a woman to make him to keep chasing u! Dig deep n u'll know how to make him to keep desiring u and not expecting him to be updated on some laid down rules dt he should follow.

    Lastly, be honest to urself when u hv no connection with a man. Don't force it cos u lusting out or crushing on him. If he eats d cookie, he'll dissappear! But once dt connection is thr, no matter how he fails d rules; he'll somehow keep crawling bk to u!

    1. I should make him keep chasing me because!? I beg to differ ma'am. The problem is we read too many books written by the whites forgetting our culture isn't the same. If he doesn't keep in touch then what are we doing if we aren't talking to each other ??
      A relationship where there's no communication is non existent. I mean you're dating yourself.
      Having sex with him doesn't mean after that it is over. What of guys that tell you no sex but patronize prostitutes??

    2. I feel u babe. How are you doing?When are you going back?

    3. I feel u babe. How are you doing?When are you going back?

  6. You have said it. Reading things like this will definitely help a lot of people figure out what's up. May not be necessarily right for everyone but there is a little for everyone.
    Busy ni, busy ko!
    If I hear.
    Good one babe!

    1. My padi of life. Thanks.
      Always great to read from you as always.

  7. Advice to ladies: there is no sure way of knowing whether a guy is genuinely into u and there is no rule to it, what worked for u may not work for another, since u don't know his heart, believe he is not still yours until he put d ring in your hand while praying it works.

    1. Prof! Of cos No sure way. Its just a general way of looking at some scenarios and what they often signify 98% of the time.

  8. If a man truly loves you, he'd do all that he can to show you that he does - If he loves you, the relationship becomes effortless. You do not have to worry about calling him or working triple hard to win his heart. His actions will put your mind at rest.

    Btw, I love Esther's blog - Not only a pretty face, but, a talented writer!

  9. You see it too right,She's very real and practical.
    Thats just the sum total of it. If he loves you,you know and never have to worry about "what his feelings are" "if he cares" and stuff like that. When you know he loves you even if you don't hear from him you are at peace.

  10. hmm, very well written. women need to know these things. Ada

    1. Abi! The only thing is knowledge doesn't often result in power.
      A babe knows that a guy is messing with her but chooses to hang around.