No. This isn't about whether making out in Public is gross or not.
Rather, it's about Public Declaration of Affection. Otherwise called declaring our love for someone publicly especially on social media.
Now when I was growing up,it was hard to write mushy words in public or gush about your better half or bestie via writing publicly simply because there was no social media.
Yep! No Facebook, Instagram, Bbm, Twitter or Blogger.
I remember having to write out letters to my parents who was in London and giving it to the only person I knew who had Internet connection to type and email to my dad. This was pre Internet cafes oh.
The embarrassment of someone reading what i
wrote was modified by the fact that my dad would get it immediately as opposed to NIPOST.
So! As I was saying, short of advertising in the papers, erecting a giant billboard, granting a newspaper interview or phoning in during a radio programme there was hardly any way to tell the world that you love your boo to death and cannot live with out him/her.
However! Social media has now given us world to chop (Interpret in yoruba for maximum effect lol).
It's easy to (cheaply) gush about someone you love, your husband or wife or boo. Its easy to celebrate our parents, siblings, kids, colleagues, friends etc.
However it's also easy to get people jealous,pissed,irritated, envious and attract attention to an otherwise good thing.
In fact some people don't hide their irritation and caution the writers immediately either out of jealousy or good intentions.
Especially if the writer/poster isn't married to the mushy/gush recipient. You see words like "I pity you, Men are not trustworthy", "Wait for him to marry you first","Why is he always on your Dp and you are not on his"?etc.
Personally, I cringe a little for the writer if such relationships end up failing but I see nothing wrong in gushing about someone if the love is 'shacking' you at the moment.
Cos let's face it: A relationship will fail if it will fail.
Attributing such 'break ups' to 'PDA' isn't necessary. Although there's such a thing as over exposure.
It may be a little embarrassing having to tell the people one gushed to that it didn't work out.
Seriously! Nollywood and Hollywood celebs have gotten it to a Tee.
Imagine declaring undying love in December and announcing in January that you are divorcing that same "love of your life"
To make matters worse, words live forever on the web. But at least it's better to be true to one's feelings.
Besides! stuff happens even between friends.
That I had friends I publicly celebrated before we fell out doesn't mean I didn't love them at the moment or mean what I wrote at the time.
Sure! I may not feel that way about you now. But that second, minute, hour, day and instance,i wanted the people around me to know that I cared for this or that person.
So here's my take especially when it comes to relationships or husbands/wives.
Keep it simple, keep it sweet, don't nauseate the readers, keep information to the minimum
(seriously I don't need to know about your sex life or your pillow talk), don't bore, don't exaggerate.
I came across this articles after I wrote this post.
Too late to add them so just go read them up.
So Guys! What's your take? Are you the public declarative type?
Do you write as its doing you 'gish gish'? Do you like to read when others write it?
Does it make you feel good when others praise you publicly or declare their love or affection?
Post a comment below!
Let's know what YOU think.
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