Now! This isn't about me cos I don't have a step mum or step siblings (to my knowledge sha) hehe.My dad must not read that last part.
My cousin has a horrible one. And i just feel sorry for him and his mum for having to contend with this particular one.
It's true that it can't be easy to bring up kids that aren't yours or to even live with them. Some step kids can also be very difficult. And I appreciate that fact.
However when you marry a man or woman you know quite well was married before he/she met you and has kids,or wasn't married and has kids and you act as if those kids were sent to make life difficult for you , isn't that just wickedness?
I know for a fact that stepmum/dads aren't all horrible or wicked.
My friend who died had a wonderful step mum. Very loving and kind. We all used to gist with her and we were close to her.
But this my cousin's step mum ehn!
She hates all her step kids. And they are all grown up,married or about to be, have kids etc.
Its not like they ever lived with her or anything. When she married the dad it was just her and her own kids that lived in their house.
My cousin and his sister lived with their mum.
The only ones this 'Iyawo/Step mum' tolerates are the female ones who pally with her, call her and basically do eye service cos those ones are wise enough to know that they can't get jack from their dad if she doesn't give him the go ahead.
There are times I think he has eaten some "Efo riro".Lol!
Some years ago, he called all his kids (minus step wifeys own cos her kids are still very young) and told them that if he dies,they shouldn't expect to inherit anything. And everything was for madam Step mum and her kids.Imagine!
And that isn't even what is paining me oh.
It's that ever since the dad got a political appointment, she has become even more insufferable.
My cousin is getting married later this year and madam wifey has said she will be the one to buy all the clothes from Italy.
That is the wife's wedding gown, the grooms suits,the parents clothes (including her own cos they must wear the same thing) and the wife's parents clothes. She is also going to be in charge of catering,hall,decoration,cake,drinks etc.
Can you imagine?
Bull *hit that she can't take.
My Mum's sister is of course very pissed but the kids are like "Make peace,don't cause any wahala oh ,after all you don't have the kind of money dad has".lol.
My mum was very pissed and said If she was the one she would have insisted on a a small wedding and left out the dad's money entirely.
I trust my mum, the wedding would rather not hold than for one 'iyawo" to take over her job and take her glory. Never going to happen.
This same step mum didn't allow my cousin get a good job.
His dad's P.A got an awesome job for him in Lagos and when he informed his boss he said the dad said "Wifey must not hear and that the P.A should look for a smaller job which is basically what my Cousin is doing now.
I don't even feel like attending the wedding again. Coupled with the nonsense expensive aso ebi that they are sure to sell. It would also be irritating to see Step Mum and her friends running the show.
What do you guys think?
Is it so hard to love kids that aren't yours?
I don't think it should be hard if you claim to love their parent.
Should my aunt make peace and let it be cos of the kids. She is very sad and bitter about the whole thing?