The truth is that a lot of people sabotage what they have all in that bid for a perfect partner.
The irony is that perfection is subjective.
A man who cooks and loves to do household chores or pen flowery poems might be a woman's idea of perfection while to another woman nothing can be further from perfection.
In the same vein, a woman who is intelligent,has a good career going on can be a man's idea of perfection while I have met men who would love to marry 'stay at home' wives or at most a teacher who would have 'time' for the kids and to attend to the home.
Personally, I think all women and men have an idea in their heads of what their perfect partner is.
Unfortunately, some people (who are imperfect themselves) have an an idea of what a perfect partner should be and proceed to make life
hard and miserable for whoever is in their lives right now.
When I was younger my idea of perfection was a good looking,tall, romantic,intelligent, career driven guy. Someone whom I could talk strategies,forecasts and empirical analysis with.
As time went on I realised that while guys with those characteristics I wanted appeared perfect at first, there were some other vices which made them imperfect for me in the long run. After adding honesty, being faithful, caring,not jealous, not possessive,loves family,must love hismother, must not be a mummy's boy etc I realised that it's better for him/her to be perfect for you instead.
Cos when he's perfect for you, everything kinda falls into place even if he isn't conventionally perfect.
Anyway till date my ex remains the best guy i ever dated. And No! He wasn't very tall or extremely handsome. But he was perfect for me in that he had such a kind heart which is why we are still close till date. He was intelligent sha and career driven and that's always an attraction for me.
So guys!what do you think?
Do you agree with the statement above which I 'tiff tiff' from Esther's Dp yesterday.
That girl's dp is always full of fine fine boys and girls,and lots of quotes like this one.
I think what screws our lives up the most is the "picture perferct" scenarios we've drawn in our heads. Nobody is perfect and nobody will ever be perfect, so why waste your time searching for a perfect partner when you know this. In fact, what does a perfect partner mean? Is there a thing like ththat?
ReplyDeleteWell! Not a lot of people know that perfect partners do not exist.
DeleteSome waste time searching.
Perfect is a scam truly. I'm one of those who never had the "tall, dark and handsome" ish and yea, i read tons of M&Bs :)
ReplyDeletelol @ scam. Those M&B authors have a lot to answer for. I think all illusions about Mr "perfect" ended with my teen years. But those books were fun though. And now I have an idea for a post. Well done.
DeleteNice piece. He doesn't have to be perfect as long as he's "perfect" for me :d
ReplyDeleteThanks and welcome.
DeleteI agree totally.
Perfection is operated anyway.
Hmmnnn... To say that I agree with you Bubba is to say the least.. you see yeah, life is teaching me that Perfection is a mirage.. and in Uni they used to say to us that there is Absolute only in calculation and on paper, but never in reality.. To say I believe it is to say the truth again.. **shines teeth ( I like saying the truth nah **winks) .. In my young and confused eyes yeah, there will never be a perfect relationship, but we can always make each day perfect for eachother by growing together and learning together.. I mean imagine if there was perfection as regards to dating, and everyone ended up with their "PERFECT" S/O, where would the fun be? where would the learning be? would there be posts like this? so what i am learning is to take life as it comes and enjoy the very moment with whom ever i meet, catch feelings for, or love. cause on the long run yeah, its not really about dating the perfect person, but about dating someone that makes you perfectly whole and happy. Cheers Bubba, and do have a ghen ghen week ahead. xx
ReplyDeleteHmm Duru the lecturer. I see you.
DeleteAnd yep! Where would all the fun be if it was perfect from the beginning?
Dear Heaven, please don't let Funmi leave us AGAIN and go on sabatical leave AGAIN!! AGAIN!!! ooo.. This is how she started smelling Christmas coming even after it passed.. **deep sigh. Issorait
DeleteNa you sabi oh Duru.
DeleteWhat beefing do you have for my sabbatical
Hian?
Welcome back sweetheart - I really missed you o. Im of the relentless belief that the perfect partner does not exist. We all have our own flaws, and like you mentioned, one woman's ideal man might not be another woman's cup of tea.
ReplyDeleteThanks dear. Missed you too.
DeleteI agree with that your "relentless" belief jare. Its something everybody needs to know.
Sometimes the sky is cloudy. It aint always perfect.
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Nods in agreement.
DeleteWelcome.
While perfection is really an illusion, everyone has an internal scale of preference formed from life's experiences and education. I think the key is to have a priority list of those things u absolutely can't do without. Then shorten that list again till u end up with 3 or 4 critical must-haves. If u meet someone who has 2 of the 4, u r a really lucky bugger. That is your Mr./ Ms. Right! Me I still dey enjoy the search..... Harper :)
ReplyDeleteAnyone who says he/she doesn't have an internal scale of preference is a big liar.
DeleteWe all have those attributes whether physical or internal that we would prefer our partners have.
I agree with you that identifying the critical ones is key so as not to focus on the mundane.
But 2 out of 4.Hmmm! Sound kinda small.
I guess it depends on the weight those 2 attributes carry sha.
Talking from experience are we? Mr Harper.
Enjoy your search very well oh. And Good luck.
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ReplyDeleteRight her swerrie.
DeleteRight here.