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Don't wanna be a playa no more,
I think I found some one I can live my life for,
This girl. I'm yours, your mine for sure.
I've had enough of running wild.
I'm switchin up my whole life style.
I don't wanna live the way I used to.
I'm givin up the booty calls,
spendin C's at the Tata files.
No leavin with two or three girls to get me off.
All I need is one who's really down.
Someone to turn this playa's life around.
Girl,I feel like you could be the one,to make a difference in my life.
Cause I'm tired of livin tryed.
I don't wanna be a playa no more.
I think I found someone I can live my life for.
Don't wanna be a playa no more.
I think I found someone I can live my life for.

 This song by Joe. That's what today's post is all about.Hehehe.What did you think when you saw the song?
So I think most women have met a player or two in their life time.

That is men who play women like sport. And they are good at their game. Very good. They  go through lots of women and yet can't seem to commit to anyone.
They are usually very good at their game,confident,charming and very skillful at dribbling women.
Any woman who falls in love with a player when he is still in the playing mood is on her own cos whether you love him or not doesn't count. He's just intent on his game.

I used to have some "player friends"and I always used to think that once a player always a player but I dunno. I have watched them fall in love with one woman and get married to her after years of playing the field and my theory received a few knocks.

I looked at my dp some days ago and I saw the pic a good friend of mine, Femi took with his wife.
He was smiling so sheepishly that I had to smile at how far he had come.
I remembered our Uni days and it was hard to believe that he could be so in love with any woman.

Femi was an unashamed player with the good looks to go with it.
That guy was fine. As in Fiiiiiiiiine.Tall, dark, handsome, intelligent and charming as well.
Its impossible for him to pass by and you won't give him a second glance.
To make matters worse he knew it too. And who could blame him, women threw themselves at him all the time and I always wondered if and when he would get struck by cupid.
I didn't date him cos we sort of friend zoned ourselves and we became so close that it was more fun to hear about his escapades than to partake in them.

Then one day,years after law school he told me he met a lady,also a lawyer through some of her friends.
And from the way he described her beauty and gushed about how they got along,how she shared his love of race cars,how she wasn't the jealous type bla bla bla.
I knew he was a goner. Seriously I knew that he had fallen head first into love.
When I eventually met the girl, She is stunning mehn! And so attractive. I could see why he was so gaga about her.

I called my friends and gisted them "Femi has fallen in love oh. And he is going to marry her".
He hadn't mentioned marriage yet but I knew that he had met his "the one" and that he was going to marry her..
They didn't believe me at all. Seriously, if you were the one you wouldn't believe either.
That guy played the field ehn! In our Uni days,law school and Nysc.
Tall, short,slender,Orobo, lepa,dark,choclolatey, fair. Just name it. He was into all shades and sizes.
No discrimination.
But I was right sha cos they got married about a year later.

However do players ever change their spots? In my friend's case can we actually say the woman changed him?
Is it possible for one woman to actually change a mans philandering ways. And if not change,at least reduce?
I mean! I know he loves her and all. But when a guy is so fine that women are the ones chasing him,isn't that recipe for wahala?
I remember him complaining shortly before their engagement about one lady who was in love with him and offering sex.
Can we attribute a player changing his ways more to a general change in direction,finding God,getting older,getting more focused about life or pressure to settle down than to a particular woman?

So let's talk. Do players ever change their ways?Have you had any encounter with or known any players?
Or are you a player? Cough Cough!
Can they change their ways?

P.S My internet is kinda acting up. I barely managed to connect and publish this post. The thing is just going up and down and coupled with my schedule this days, i just gave up on it. So make una no vex.
Blame the internet and me.
Missed you guys sha.